Thursday, July 9, 2015

From The Beginning

I support the movement to normalize breastfeeding. When I was pregnant with my first child, I knew that I would be a breastfeeding mother. My sisters and I were all breastfed as babies. I observed my mother breastfeeding my young sister when I was a child. It was normal. It was beautiful.

I can recall the very first time I nursed my baby, it was just after his delivery. He was placed on my chest, skin to skin, and instinctively he wiggled his way to my breast. I was overwhelmed with emotion, it was magical! It was a precious moment that I will never forget. Like many moms, this joyous feeling was quickly replaced by pain. The first two days of nursing were the most horrific, I had never experienced such anguish. It was almost too unbearable for me to handle. At one moment, I even contemplated giving up. My husband, who was by my side even suggested that I formula feed. His lack of support/encouragement, was disappointing. He had children from a previous marriage, who were formula fed, so I didn’t expect him to understand. Seeing me breastfeed and experiencing this with me was a first for him. That was the first and last time he questioned my choice to breastfeed. On the third day, I was relieved to feel that my milk had come in. The baby was latching as expected and the pain was slowly going away. I felt confident and proud that I was able to overcome this challenge for my baby and myself.  

The benefits of mothers’ milk for my baby far outweighed any thought I had about formula feeding. I didn’t like the thought of manufactured, processed supplements. It was unnatural. It wasn’t until I went back to work that I contemplated using formula, I was afraid that I wouldn’t be able to produce enough supply while I we were apart. So I pumped twice a day while at work and rushed home in between my lunch hour. Even still, I felt that I wasn’t able to meet his needs. I did this for over 6 months, I was glad that my employer understood my needs and helped make transitioning back to work easy. However, it was only because I reentered the workplace that I started to notice the resistance to breastfeeding. Upon my return the company lactation room was below standard, I immediately contacted the HR department to file a complaint. It was clear based on cleanliness and location that it was not a priority. I wondered to myself, how many women use this area? Are they satisfied with how it’s maintained? I would often receive joking remarks from co-workers about having to pump or take ‘breaks’, it didn’t bother me because I knew they didn’t understand. It was foreign to them and therefore subject to ridicule.
I live in a small community where the practice is encouraged and often embraced. The support for nursing mothers is overwhelming in a very positive way. Community outreach, social clubs and gatherings are all available for added support and encouragement. I feel fortunate to be surrounded by so many smart, inspirational women. It’s a luxury that not many women have. 

I encourage new and expecting mothers to turn to online support groups; there are many Facebook pages, twitter accounts and websites that are dedicated to breastfeeding.

Here are some that I found very informative:





Hashtag on twitter and Instagram - #normalizebreastfeeding

3 comments:

  1. It is crazy to think something as natural as a mother feeding her child would have a stigma to it. I think this goes back to Puritanical beliefs that women should be modest, almost ashamed, of their bodies. It's symptomatic of a society that can't help but to sexualize women. We hear a lot about pay equality, how we need a female president in the fight for equality. But this issue is just as important in the feminist movement and should have a louder voice than it does. Great job in taking steps to get that voice heard.

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    1. I really appreciate your feedback Anthony. I've noticed an influx of celebrities who have joined the normalize breastfeeding movement; as Alyssa Milano, Miranda Kerr, Blake Lively and Olivia Wilde have all turned to social media/magazines to support breastfeeding.

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    2. I think this is a great use of their star power. I hope to see more celebrities follow suit.

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